A few weeks ago, I blogged suggesting people were 'nice' to each other. This provoked a response from some of my readers. As you know I come from a working environment where 'High emotional levels' are a requirement. People have tantrums/shout and scream etc for effect as much as anything. So in another environment I believe that this isn't the most effective method of getting results.
However, I have just read the following article: http://tinyurl.com/d68y42
This states that it is GOOD to show emotion (I would agree) and also to show anger. To an extent I agree, BUT I have two reservations.
However, I have just read the following article: http://tinyurl.com/d68y42
This states that it is GOOD to show emotion (I would agree) and also to show anger. To an extent I agree, BUT I have two reservations.
- If you 'lose it' by getting really angry - you have no where to go emotionally and also you lose control and possibly say things you regret later.
- There are occasions when 'showing your cards' or emotions can be a negative point (think of negotiating for a salary rise).
As with all emotions and communication styles, be very clear about what your desired outcomes are. If you are wanting to establish a relationship - losing your temper isn't a positive option, but if as a last resort you have to change someone's behaviour or attitude, it could be used - but be careful not to go into a blind rage.
You have been warned!
You have been warned!
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2 comments:
Many years ago, I heard someone at a seminar say "one mustn't lose one's temper, it's better to find it"
Brilliant comment: "Finding your temper" is finding your feelings but it implies that there is some control over your feelings. I will use that comment!!
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