Humour at a time of tragedy

We appear to be going through a time of tragedy; particularly with the dreadful devastation in Japan. The following article on the BBC website, argues about jokes after a tragedy.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-12775389

As someone that has been a singer at the Association of Funeral Directors' dinner, I can confirm that their humour is 'black'. No doubt this is a coping mechanism for their industry. Likewise I understand that people during the darkest moments of the Second World War used black humour to 'lighten' a situation.

However, we now live in a world where what we say, and more importantly, what others say, is broadcast quickly through the internet. What we might think of as 'black humour' might be deeply offensive and hurtful to someone suffering - and reading a 'tweet' or status update on Facebook. Since you are not in front of that person; they can't hear the nuance of your voice or see your body language, they only have the words to read.

We also live in a world where certain 'comedians' (I use that term very loosely), will say anything and argue that it is 'ironic' or 'challenging contemporary thought' - when in fact it is NOT funny, and audiences are laughing in horror and embarrassment. The trouble with these comedians is that what they say is picked up by the media, making the statement more exposed to everyone - causing more offense. It also raises the profile of the 'comedian' concerned.

So here are my tips for using humour at a time of tragedy:

1. Know your audience; if you are going to use a current topic as a source of humour, check who your audience will be. If it is a family member or close friend and you know their humour, that could be okay. If, you decide to joke about Japan and it is a Japanese audience, it really is not going to be funny. If in doubt, don't say it.
2. Decide on a reasonable time after the tragic event before you make the joke or comment. Immediately after a tragedy, when people are in shock, is not a good time.
3. If you have children who are repeating jokes heard in the playground, try to explain to them about the tragedy (without scaring them) but also to be aware who it is appropriate to repeat those jokes to.
4. If you are a social media fan: Facebook and Twitter, be aware that your humour can be re-tweeted and transmitted throughout the world. Not everyone might have the same humour as you; some might find it offensive and will label you. Using humour on a company account or yours - if it is for personal branding, is dangerous, so use with care.
5. Decide whether or not the joke is actually funny; as I mentioned before, some statements aren't. Repeating them wins no brownie points but labels you as being an idiot.
6. If in any doubt, don't repeat the joke.