Successful leaders and how they communicate

Recently I heard a 'horror story' from Planet Opera. The director: the current flavour of the month in the theatre world, had refused to speak to the leading lady after two days rehearsal, because she was 'undirectable'. The singer concerned was performing a notoriously challenging role; would not be able to physically sing it if she cavorted around the stage as he no doubt wanted; she also spoke English as a second language and was having difficulty understanding him. The director only thought of his ego; not 'How can I change my communication style to develop a rapport with this team member.' He could have taken the time; allocated a translator; tried to get to know her; valued her talents etc. But no. The singer sang magnificently; the production was a disaster with the director and his production team being booed off the stage.

I too was the recipient of boorish communication from a self appointed 'leader' for an event. On meeting me, he considered me to be the lowest of the low and talked over me; trying to under mind my expertise and position. I pulled him up on this because the event was missing out on using my experience and expertise due to his egotistical stance. What I was bringing to the event appeared to be disregarded by his insecurities and unless I had intervened the event would have missed out on my knowledge.

Teams bring together people with a range of skills, expertise and experience. As a leader, it is your responsibility and role to find out what the individuals' strengths are and how they can be used positively for a project. It is also your role to assess if any outside expertise will be required to run a project. Finally, as a leader you have to change your communication style to ensure you are developing a rapport with each individual in the team; ignoring a team member or talking over them is not leadership: it is egotistical, childish behaviour and you will achieve the very poorest results.